“We want to build a society where it is easier for people to be good.” Peter Maurin (Co-founder, with Dorothy Day, of the Catholic Worker Movement)
Long before last week’s massacre at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School, I’ve been in turmoil over the brokenness I see, every where I look…
- Thousands dying from opioid overdoses.
- Countless women revealing the abuses they’ve suffered from men behaving like animals.
- The growing divide between the “haves” and the “have nots.”
- The bullying young people endure in our schools, and on social media.
- The vitriol that dominates our politics.
- Senseless acts of “road rage,” ending in senseless deaths.
- The public rise of hate groups.
- The decline of civility.
- The alarming negative impact of social media on everything from our politics to our children’s social development.
- ISIS. Al-Queda. Boko Haram.
- The Pulse night club massacre. The Las Vegas strip massacre. The Marjory Stoneman Douglas massacre.
What is happening?
I know the world’s never been perfect. There’s always been war, violence, hate, prejudice, addiction, sickness, poverty, disasters, racism, injustices, etc. Certainly, anyone whose lived through wars, or famines, or the Holocaust, or slavery, or in a refugee camp, or a natural disaster, may not be as shocked or disturbed as I am by our current state. Perhaps the world is no more broken than it ever has been, and I’ve just been blind or ignorant.
Nevertheless, my eyes are wide-open now, and I don’t like what I see.
Dorothy Day wrote, “We are not expecting utopia here on this earth. But God meant things to be much easier than we have made them.”
Is it possible that we’ve created a way of living that’s unhealthy, unsustainable, and undermining the kind of life we actually long for? Is it possible that our values and lifestyles – the values and lifestyles of normal, church-going, law-abiding citizens – are actually completely out-of-whack? Is it possible that for the world to change, we’ll have to change ourselves?
In the shadow of recent events, children are on my mind. I think we’re failing our children.
- We aren’t providing children with adequate role models, mentors, and guides.
- We’re pushing our kids to be too busy for their own good, and have placed too much pressure on them to perform.
- We’re sacrificing family time, for work and activity.
- We’re sacrificing community and extended-family, for opportunity and mobility.
- We’re sacrificing religion and spirituality – in the Church and in the home – to competing obligations and recreation.
- We’re not teaching children the values of respect for authority, hard work and discipline, and basic morality.
- We’re exposing our children to way too much evil in movies, TV, the internet, and social media, without the supervision or skills to discern good and evil, right and wrong.
- We’re indulging our kids, instead of investing in them.
- We’re allowing our kids to grow up with way too much fear, without the foundations of security we all need to thrive.
- We are creating survivors, not thrivers.
And, when I say “we,” I’m not just blaming parents. Parenting is the hardest job I’ve ever had, and I certainly didn’t do it perfectly. “We” is me. “We” is you. “We” is society, culture, government, the Church, the media, the press, school systems, sports leagues, etc., etc. “We” are the problem.
I’m also not suggesting there aren’t countless parents, grand-parents, teachers, coaches, pastors, Scout leaders, police officers, politicians, etc. trying to make a difference in kids lives. There are, thank God.
But, something has to change, doesn’t it? What we’re doing isn’t working, is it?
I don’t have the answers, and it’s certainly much easier to identify problems than to develop solutions. But, increasingly, I want to be part of building a society where it is easier for people to “be good.”
What if we lived simpler lives, with less stress, and more time for family, friends, and faith?
What if we knew our neighbors, and built stronger community with them?
What if we developed habits of helping each other, relying on each other, supporting each other?
What if we all gave more time to service, helping the most fragile members of our society?
What if we spent more time looking into each other’s faces, and less time at screens?
What if we planted deeper roots in one place, forsaking the next promotion or opportunity, for the sake of long-term stability?
What if we valued character-development – our children’s and our own – over academic, athletic, or professional achievement? Not instead of, just more than.
What if church, worship, service, and faith development was a priority for the whole family?
What if we were more generous with our resources, our time, and our hearts?
What if we collectively committed to fixing what is broken in our society, instead of turning our backs and hiding from it?
What if we collectively believed we could make the world better than it is, and did something about it?
I want to be part of building a society where it is easier for people to be good – really good. Do you?